Sometimes I feel like I have three jobs. First, I have the job that I tell people about when they ask, ‘What do you do for a living?’ This is the one where I work at a school with children with special needs. Second, I have this blog as well as a few other freelance writing gigs. This is the one that people are very curious about and want to know if I can really make money writing (the answer is yes). Third, I am a homemaker. This is the job that I inherited whenever I married Brian. This is my favorite job, at least most of the time!
Being a homemaker is so much more than just being a wife. A homemaker is someone who manages the home. Let that sink in a minute. This is not a small job, it’s huge, especially if you have children. Since I also have a full-time job, I feel like I am constantly balancing this job and that one. Have you ever seen a juggler catching and tossing things in the air with concentration and ease? Well, that’s me most days just trying to keep everything going.
Can you relate?
I’m sure you can!
Sometimes I think I am doing a good job juggling all of my tasks and other times I am snatching balls of the ground, tossing them aimlessly in the air, and forgetting about others all together!
I often wish I could just stay home and devote all my time to my family and writing, but until then I have a few rules for myself that I follow so that I can keep it together.
Seeking joy in everything. God has blessed me in numerous and fabulous ways. My jobs are a blessing and so is my home. Remembering how blessed I am to have a job makes it easier to go every day.
Let it go. Whenever I find myself with too much to do and too little time, I let something go. I have a client for which I have been writing for 5 years and just recently let them go. They were a great client and profitable, but I am moving forward with new clients and so I let them go. Sometimes, I let the vacuuming go while I focus on an article that needs to be written. Other days I let my blog go so that I can get dinner on the table. Whenever you are struggling it’s ok to admit that you can’t do it all and let it go.
Keep a schedule. I have a little pocket planner that stays on the coffee table and only gets put away whenever company is coming over. I write everything in. I often make a list of the big things that need to get done on Sunday or Monday and then plan out what I will accomplish each day. Having a schedule and a plan helps me focus on what needs to get done first. I clean my house on Saturday mornings and having this devoted time cleaning helps me keep my house clean because I know exactly when I will be cleaning it again.
First things first. And going right along with keeping a schedule, I make sure to keep first things first. I make time with God my first priority. Then my husband. My day job is next, then my blog. It would be very easy to let my blog take over because there is so much to do and I love writing, but I have to balance it with everything else so I put first things first.
Say no. If we are asked to do something and I don’t have time, then I say no. This happens a lot at church as there is always another event or Bible study to attend and sometimes I just say no.
Clean the clutter as I go. The window between our kitchen and living room is always cluttered. It’s a dumping ground for my husband whenever he walks in the door and the place where I put things that I need to deal with later. So to fight the clutter, I try to put one thing away every time I walk by it. I pick up a coffee cup whenever I go to the kitchen or a cell phone charger as I walk to the bedroom. It still gets piled up pretty quick, but this way it gets put away quickly too.
Ask for help. Whenever I am feeling completely overwhelmed I ask for help. I believe that Brian has his own set of tasks as a husband, but he is good about stepping in and helping whenever I feel like I’m drowning.
Balance is best. Balancing being a homemaker and a full-time job is not easy, but it’s life. My mother did it and so do many other women. I’ve always been a bit of a dreamer and so I believe that someday I’ll be able to quit my job and stay home but until then I’m clinging to the words of Proverbs 31:30, ‘Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.’ No matter what my job is, my purpose is to serve the Lord and that is exactly what I intend to do.
Where are you in life? A homemaker? Building a career? Both? Do you dream of quitting your day job to solely be a homemaker like I do? How do you keep yourself balanced?