I love Sundays. First, we get to go to church and worship God. I love my church and seeing my friends. Then we come home and I make a big lunch for Brian and myself. I bake cookies and Brian scrolls through Facebook on his phone. Then, I blog and Brian reads. Later, I take a walk and Brian watches basketball It’s always a relaxing day full of rest.
But there is a little problem with our Sunday schedule. Did you catch what it is?
We do everything separate! I do my thing and Brian does his. I’m all for us each having our own hobbies- in fact, I encourage it- but if we aren’t careful we won’t spend any time together and that’s just not ok with me. I love Brian and our relationship is too important to me to just ignore.
And weekdays can be even worse! By the time I get home from work, make dinner, and work on a writing project or two, it’s time for bed. If I’m not careful Brian and I will ignore each other (unintentionally) for days.
This is just not ok with me. So I make it a point to connect with my husband every single day. Thankfully, this happens naturally most of the time. But if you struggle to connect with your husband every day then here are 8 simple things that you can do.
Text, I Love You
I feel so much more connected to Brian whenever I text him throughout the day. Now, I am crazy busy at work and so is he so we don’t text much, but I try to send a quick ‘I love you’ or ‘I can’t wait to come home to you’ at lunch. It melts my heart whenever he texts me too.
Make them Laugh
The busier life gets the more stressed I get and then I’m not much fun. I’m not saying that you need to fake happiness, but don’t be afraid to flirt a little and find humor in stressful situations.
Look Forward to Your Next Date Night
By this I mean plan ahead! Life gets busy and we have to go here and there, etc. etc. Whenever we feel like we have so many things that we have to do, we forget about the things that we should do. Spending time with your husband is just one of those things so plan a date night and stick to it. Talk about it often and really anticipate it.
And if you need date night ideas I’ve got you covered with over 20 created date night ideas right here.
Kiss Every Morning and Evening
Brian never leaves the house without kissing me goodbye. Even if I’m asleep, he wakes me up to say goodbye. A simple kiss goes a long way.
I’ve talked about the power of prayer in marriage in depth here, here, and here. The bottom line is that your marriage is not just between you and your husband. Building your relationship around your faith in Jesus Christ is infinitely important. Devil is out to destroy your marriage so connecting through prayer is one of the best things that you can do together.
Spend Time Together -Even if it’s just 5 minutes
You can’t connect if you aren’t together so find a few minutes each day to sit down and talk. Talk about your day. Talk about life. Talk about the news. Whatever. Just find a few minutes to focus on your husband and only your husband.
A few months ago I shared the 5 minutes a day challenge. The challenge is basically there to help you connect with your spouse by completing 5 simple tasks together in 5 minutes. It’s a great way to connect and you can download the challenge here for free.
Our culture is completely addicted to our smart phones and tablets and it’s ridiculous. You sit down, look at your phone, and before you know it 20 minutes has passed and you have done absolutely nothing. Please tell me I’m not the only one guilty of this? Needless to say, if you want to connect with your husband on a deeper level then you are going to need to put that phone down and actually look at each other.
Be Creative With Your Time
If you read this list and still think that you have no time to connect with your spouse, then you’ll have to be creative with your time. Simply folding the laundry together can become time together if you let it.
I loved dating Brian because that was the year where we actively looked for time to spend together and get know each other. Now, we pretty much know everything about each other, live together, and it may seem like we don’t have to work as hard to connect, but we do. It’s always important to keep connecting with your spouse and making your relationship the most important relationship in your life.
If you love this post then you may want to check out this one: Four Ways to Maintain Friendship in Marriage, this one: What One Silly Fight Taught Us About Communication and Balance, or this one: Six Things Your Husband Needs From You Everyday.