Emotional intimacy is something that we don’t think about much as long as we have it. But as soon as you and your spouse start to feel disconnected everything else begins to feel strained as well.
Today I want to talk a little bit about what emotional intimacy is and how you can cultivate it in your marriage. Emotional Intimacy is the bond that is shared between a husband and wife. It is connecting on a deeper level. Whenever you first meet and decide to marry someone you have a connection with them. As you date, marry, and build a life together the connection grows. This connection is emotional intimacy.
Let’s say that you come home from work and see your husband has had a rough day. With very few words you can read his mood and you know how to comfort him. In fact, your very presence is a comfort to him because he knows that you understand, comfort, and support him.
This is emotional intimacy.
It is my hope that you and your spouse always feel deeply connected but as we all know this is not always the case. Things happen. Life gets busy. Tragedy strikes. And before you know it you feel disconnected.
Here are a few things that you can to do cultivate emotional intimacy in your marriage.
Deciding that Your Marriage is Worth It
After God your spouse will be the most important part of your life. It’s not your kids or your career, it’s your spouse. Decide right now that you won’t put anything before your marriage. Take the time to just be together. It is ok to forget the housework and spend time together. It’s ok to invest in babysitter once a week so that you can get away. It’s even ok to stay up all night talking if you need to.
As life gets busy it’s easy to fall into the trap of, ‘I HAVE to do this’ or ‘We NEED to do that.’
Emotional intimacy comes when we say, ‘I WILL put my marriage first always.’
Emotional intimacy requires our time and effort. But the good news is that it’s the most rewarding experience ever as you grow closer to your spouse.
Loving the Right Way
Recently I have been learning about the 5 love languages which are based on the book, The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. It is important to understand that everyone shows and receives love in different ways. As you develop emotional intimacy and make it a daily habit you’ll learn how to best love them.
My love language is quality time so my husband makes sure to give me his undivided attention whenever we are together which leaves me feeling loved.
Study your spouse and find ways to love him that will leave him feeling emotional fulfilled.
No matter how busy life may get devote time to your husband. This requires you to put down the cell phone and turning off the tv. It means that you have to say no to other activities sometimes, even if it’s intent is good.
Since I feel so strongly about the importance of spending time with your husband can creating emotional intimacy I made you something.
I like to call it the five minutes a day marriage challenge. All you have to do is download and print this card and then follow the directions.
I’ll I believe that you need more than five minutes a day with your husband I understand that life gets busy and I think that this is a great way to begin cultivating emotional intimacy.
Place this card somewhere that you’ll see it often so that whenever you have 5 free minutes you can grab it and start connecting.
Your husband is your best friend. Download your card and enjoy your time together now!
What do you do to cultivate emotional intimacy in marriage?
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