Let’s face it; our men work hard! Naturally, they get discouraged just like we do at times.
Maybe work has been stressful, a friend betrayed him, or he’s lost as to where to begin when it comes to a certain situation. My man has been there. I’ve been there. It truly is tough when I don’t know how to lift his spirits! We, as wives, are called to be our husbands’ helpmeets. We are supposed to be their best friend, lift them up when they are down, and push them to be their best selves. Sometimes it’s hard to know what to do and say to give them a loving push in the right direction!
If your husband is going through a rough time and needs some encouragement, I have a few things you can try to make him feel like himself again!
Listen to him
This is huge. When I’m upset, I want someone to just listen to me vent! I have to let all of that frustration, sadness, and anger out in order to feel better. Most times, our husbands feel the same way and want our undivided attention for just a few minutes without the cell phone, TV, or kids.
Take time to truly listen to your spouse. Let him explain why he is upset and how he is feeling. Sometimes just letting him vent to you will make all the difference in the world! Show him that you care about what he is going through.
Pray for him
This is the most important way you can encourage your man! Pray that God will give him strength and carry him through this tough time. Pray that the situation will be used to refine and strengthen your husband, and also bring glory to God. Pray for yourself; that God will give you the words to say to encourage and uplift your husband. I am still growing in this area, but I know that prayer is the most essential and effective tool we have that will uplift others and fight against the enemy.
Get into God’s Word together
The Bible is God’s holy and precious promises written down for us to take refuge in. It is supposed to be our roadmap, our encouragement, and our hope. We should be studying it daily! It will guide us when we don’t know what path to take or how to handle a situation. Reading God’s word will help you understand how to encourage your husband and give you the wisdom you need to help him.
Make him feel extra special
Pamper him a little! Give him a backrub, write him an encouraging love letter, take him out to his favorite restaurant, or plan a very special date night. Speak to his love language! In whatever way he receives love, give it to him. Get his mind off of his problems for a little while!
Tell him how much he means to you
Shower him with words of affirmation. Tell him what a great husband, dad, and employee he is. Let him know how much you appreciate his hard work in providing for your family, and tell him how proud you are of him. Uplift him with your words! It’s great to show someone you love them, but it is also important that they hear it in words often.
How do you uplift and encourage your husband when he is struggling? I’d love to hear about it in the comments!
Madison is a follower of Jesus, wife to Steven, and mommy to her fur baby Bentley. She strives to encourage and equip wives to grow closer to God and their husbands on a daily basis. She loves to spend time in the Word of God, go on dates with her husband, whip up treats in the kitchen and travel the world when she can. In all that she does, she strives to please God most of all.