When Brian asked me to marry him I said yes, but little did I know what I was saying yes too. I said yes to being a wife, being someone’s other half, and placing my life in someone else’s hands. I said yes to moving far, far away and yes to a house in the suburbs. I said yes to a new city, a new job, and a new church. I said yes to making new friends and only see my best friends a few times a year. I said yes to a new family with new traditions and learning to love them as my own.
I said yes to loving and serving the same man for the rest of my life. I said yes to serving him as the church serves Christ. I said yes to never removing the ring from my finger. I said yes to following his lead instead of my own desires.
With one very small word, my whole life has been decided.
I said yes to everyday with my best friend. I said yes to sharing my home, my bed, my toothbrush holder, and my hopes and dreams. I said yes to late night giggles, lazy Sunday afternoons, and many, many road trips. I said yes to cooking dinner every night and grocery shopping every week and preparing healthy meals. I said yes to learning to handle diabetes and all of its consequences. I said yes to a million billion secrets that no one will ever understand but us.
I said yes to waking early to prepare a lunch for him. I said yes to learning to manage money with another person. I said yes to disagreements, forgiveness and continually extending grace. I even said yes to living with habits that I find annoying!
With one small promise I agreed to love another person more than I love even myself. It’s a love that must be from God and not something I come up with on my own. Ephesians 5:22-24 says, “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.” I said yes to choosing to submit to my husband each and every day, despite how I feel and what I want.
But I also said yes to letting him love so deeply that he loves me as he loves his own body. For Ephesians 5:25-30 says, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— for we are members of his body.” It is impossible to understand how one can love so deeply and yet I have experienced it in every way.
Indeed, there is more to marriage then I could have ever understood.
When I agreed to marry my sweet husband, I said yes to the greatest adventure that I could ever dream up. I said yes to letting my body change and having children someday-when the time is right. I said yes to raising them with my husband. I said yes to growing old with him, hand in hand, and caring for him as long as we live. I said yes to continuing to say yes no matter what life throws our way because I will always love him.
I said yes to the hardest job imaginable and the greatest joys in life.
I said yes to being a wife.
What does saying ‘yes’ mean to you?