We are in the middle of a very long week. It’s Brian’s turn to work the weekend and before it’s all said and done he will work 8 days in a row. On his last day of work, my parent’s will be arriving to stay with us for the weekend and we’ll have a big yard sale. So many long days in a row is hard on Brian and lonely for me. Honestly, by the end of the week, Brian will be irritable and exhausted, which often leads to misunderstandings and sometimes hurt feelings. It’s going to be a long week.
Now, I have two choices. I can choose to focus on the negative and throw myself a pity party because I’ll be home alone all week long, or I can choose joy.
I choose joy today and every single day. God created us to be joyful and I believe that joy can be found in every situation. I won’t celebrate my husband’s exhaustion and my lonely, but I can choose to celebrate the fact that he’ll be home for dinner by five each night and that I have the ability and financial stability to cook us a healthy dinner. I can find joy in my overly clean home and the many blog articles that I can write this week.
You see, whenever our priorities are in the right place, we are filled with joy. We lose our joy whenever we focus on immediate, temporary situation. The best way to find joy is to focus on God. Not yourself. Not your husband. Not your kids. When we focus on God we realize that we already have everything we need because we have Him and He is always good.
How are you feeling today? Are you full of joy or do you find yourself stuck focusing on your situations?
I want to share 7 characteristics of the joyful wife with you. If joy is missing from your life, then I encourage you to focus on truths. No more negativity. Let’s be joyful!
A Joyful Wife Has Her Priorities Straight
But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. -Matthew 6:20-21
I love blogging and I love being able to write and earn a little money for my family in the process. But my ambition as a writer cannot outweigh my duty as a Christian. Someday when I go to Heaven, it won’t matter what I wrote and or how I ran my business. The only thing that will matter is my relationship with God and how other people saw Christ through me. A joyful wife doesn’t focus on earthly things and store up treasures here, but instead puts God’s will first in all matters.
A Joyful Wife Focuses on Things Above
Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. -Colossians 3:1
It’s easy and almost natural to make your husband the focus of your marriage. But I’ve got news for you, your marriage isn’t about you and your husband. It isn’t about the happy life that you build together or the family that you create. The joyful wife knows that marriage is a picture of Christ’s love for the Church and that her marriage was created to bring glory to God. So keep your eyes on God.
A Joyful Wife Chooses Forgiveness
Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. -Ephesians 4:32
My husband and I have had the same argument 50 times. We are two different people and there are some things on which we just can’t agree. But you know what, I forgive him every single time. I might not forgive him as quickly as I should, but ultimately, I decide to forgive him again. The joyful wife knows that she must forgive again, and again, and again. It’s not easy to forgive when we feel like someone has done us wrong, but whenever we hold a grudge we are the ones left without joy. It’s better to forgive and move on.
A Joyful Wife has a Heart of Thanksgiving
Rejoice in the Lord always. I will say it again: Rejoice! -Philippians 4:4
It’s hard to be sad when you are counting your blessings. It’s a chain reaction. You give thanks for one thing and then realize that you have so much to be thankful for. No one’s life is completely perfect, but everyone can find something for which they can give thanks. A joyful wife has a heart of thanksgiving and seeks give thanks regularly.
A Joyful Wife Stops Comparison
We have different gifts, according to the grace given to each of us. If your gift is prophesying, then prophesy in accordance with your faith. -Romans 12:6
Comparison really is the thief of joy. I may be happy with my little blog, but one glance at someone who is earning thousands a month and I’m jealous. Whenever I see a friends brand new home, I wish my home was new. The list goes on and on. I’m fine with what I have until I realize what others have. A joyful wife accepts that everyone has their own gift and purpose according to God’s will. She does not compare herself with others.
A Joyful Wife Walks with the Lord
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. -Galatians 5:22-23
One thing that I have struggled with lately is reading my Bible and spending time with the Lord daily. I know that it’s the right thing to do and my life will be better if I make time, but still I struggle. However, I have learned that whenever I make spending time with God a reality that I am happier, less stressed, more patient, and kinder. A joyful wife walks with the Lord.
A Joyful Wife Surrounds Herself with Good Friends
Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.” -1 Corinthians 15:33
It only takes one drop of poison to ruin a gallon of drinking water. You can do everything right and lose your joy because of the influence of one person. A joyful wife understands the importance of surrounding herself with people who build her up and bring her closer to Christ. She does not waste her time with those who bring her down and she is not influenced by those who love gossip and hate what is right.
Now that’s I’ve finished this post, I look at the clock and realize that it’s only two more hours until my husband will be home again and I’m choosing joy. I choose joy now and every day. I know that there is a good chance that I’ll fail at some point and that’s okay. I’ll start each new day by choosing joy. What about you?
How do you find joy on a daily basis? Share your thoughts in the comments below.