This is the first post in the Modern Marriage Lessons Series. Be sure to check back next month for ‘I Am Hannah.’
Eve. The name itself has become symbolic of sin, betrayal, and pain. We first learn about Eve in Genesis 2 and by Genesis 4:2 her story is over. So how much do you really know about Eve? The first woman to ever be created? The first mother and wife? We know that she ate a forbidden piece of fruit and led her husband to sin as well, but today we are going to look at 4 modern marriage lessons from From Eve.
Be a Suitable Helper
The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” –Genesis 2:18
After creating Adam, God realized that he would need a suitable helper. He needed someone to help him care for the garden, be his friend, and his confidant. God also knew that the union between Adam and Eve would become the picture of Christ and His Church in which a bride carefully plans and prepares for her future husband. Adam didn’t just need a casual friend or hired help, he needed a wife.
As a wife, our role hasn’t changed much since Eve, though it may be more difficult with all the sin in the world. You were created to be a suitable helper to your husband. Being a suitable helper may mean something different to every single wife. To me, it means working every day and helping pay the bills, preparing food, keeping our house clean, and being a compassionate and encouraging listener. To you, it may mean being a stay at home mom and laboriously raising children and teaching them to read and write.
No matter what your family looks like, you are called to be your husband’s suitable helper.
Be More Concerned With Pleasing God than Your Husband
When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. –Genesis 3:6
Eve knew that God was her creator and that she should listen to Him. She had no reason to believe that God would lie to her. In fact, she probably didn’t even know what a lie was. But for a few moments in Genesis 3:6 she became more concerned with pleasing her husband and herself than she did with pleasing God. If the fruit was good and wouldn’t hurt her, then why shouldn’t she share it with Adam? Surely, Adam would be happy to taste this new piece of fruit.
Sometimes, I desire to please my husband more than I desire to please God and that’s when I get myself into trouble. Let’s say we wake up on a Sunday morning and my husband is sick. He is going to stay home from church so that he doesn’t spread his germs around and I have to decide if I will go without him or stay home. If I stay home and I make him some soup and run to the store for meds and keep him company. But if I go to church I can worship God and participate in Sunday morning services.
It’s good to take care of my sick husband and it’s good to go to church. But I need to be more concerned with pleasing God than my husband. Now, after church, I can still pick him up some medicine and make him some soup, but I have to put first things first, and God is always first.
How different might our lives be if Eve had decided to please God instead of Adam?
There Will Always Be Pain and Suffering
To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” –Genesis 3:6
Ouch. Eve isn’t the only who is paying for her sins, we are too. I have never given birth, but I still have an understanding of how painful it is. The second part of this verse talks about a wife’s desire to be in charge whenever we are called to submit. I know that submit is kind of a scary word. My husband is not perfect, so why should I follow his guidance?
Pain will come. Suffering will come. And it’s up to you to decide what you will do whenever it comes. Biblical submission is acknowledging that your husband is the leader of your home and following his lead. If your husband is in submission to God’s will and loves you as he loves the church then this works out beautifully. If he isn’t, then we have more pain and suffering. Either way, there will be pain and suffering so be prepared.
Admit that You Need God’s Help
Adam made love to his wife Eve, and she became pregnant and gave birth to Cain. She said, “With the help of the Lord I have brought forth a man.” –Genesis 4:1
I think that Eve might have learned a valuable lesson between Genesis 3:1 and Genesis 4:1. Whenever Eve took that first bite of fruit from the serpent, she was saying that she didn’t need God to guide her. Her way was good enough. But, in Genesis 4 whenever she gives birth to Cain she realizes that this miracle could only happen with God’s help.
Newsflash: If you want to be a good wife, you need God’s help. You can’t do it on your own and why would you want to? God is here to help you. He wants to make your life better and heap blessings upon your family. So don’t fall into the lies of the world, or in Eve’s case the serpent, follow God’s guidance in all that you do.
Eve gets a bad rap for being the first person to sin, but any one of us could have been Eve. On any given day I can be seen trying to please my husband before God, and I always try to do thing my own way before admitting that I need help. Our lives are completely riddled with sin and that sin affects every part of our lives.
But, we have a Savior. Even though she had to pay for her sins, God didn’t condemn Eve to death. He gave her grace. He forgave her sins and gave her everything that she needed.
I am Eve. And I am forgiven.
Which modern marriage lesson stands out to you the most? What other lessons have you learned from Adam and Eve that I may have missed?