The dishes have been washed, the laundry folded, and the house is quiet. The groceries have been purchased and meals carefully planned. Even the dog is freshly washed and lazily resting in her little basket. To some it may look like just a quiet night at home, but to me it feels like success. I feel like part of being a woman is being a homemaker, which is not as simple a task as it seems. And if we are being honest the task is more than just keeping the house clean-it’s creating an environment of love and growth within our homes. Quiet days like this make me feel accomplished. But we need to get something straight. As a homemaker our purpose is not found in keeping a house neat and organized but it is in our character and our identity as a precious child of God.
For the past few weeks I have been reading about the Proverbs 31 woman. When I think of her I imagine a scene much like the one above: Everything in perfect order. And I can’t help but think to myself that I’m not there yet. I mean, more often than not my house is not spotlessly clean and sometimes I don’t have time to carefully plan our meals. How am I ever to become the perfect Proverbs 31 wife?
Then, just yesterday, it hit me. Proverbs 31 doesn’t call her a perfect wife, it calls her a wife of noble character. The Proverbs 31 Wife isn’t perfect and we shouldn’t be striving for perfection either. Instead we should strive to be like Jesus. Jesus may never have been a wife, but we were created in the image of God. Our main focus doesn’t need to be on ‘how to be a perfect Proverbs 31 wife’ with perfectly clean houses and people praising our work. It needs to be on our relationship with Christ and a desire to become more Christ-like.
This doesn’t mean that the Proverbs 31 example is bad by any means. In fact, I still admire her and want to follow her example. But I want to follow her lead in light of who I am in Christ. Becoming Christ-like must be my goal first and womanly noble character will follow.
Proverbs 12:4 says, “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones.” I want to be that crown. Imagine it. A crown means that he is King, it shows his high status, it is worthy, and it is definitely beautify. You, lovely wife, are that crown and it is your husband’s honor to have you.
I can imagine her now leaning over her Bible late at night gleaning wisdom and whispering sweet prayers for her family. When she finally falls asleep, she doesn’t fret about tomorrow, but instead joyfully dreams of the family that she has so lovingly and selflessly cares for each and every day.
Join us on Friday for a continuation of this study: Becoming a Wife of Noble Character.