I absolutely love being in the car with Brian. We take lots of road trips to see my family since they live so far away and those hours spent in the car always bring fun conversation. When we are at home, I’m working or he’s on his phone and if we aren’t careful, the night is over and we’ve barely said two words to each other! Not good! Conversation is the key to understanding so it’s pretty important.
While we were driving last week I came up with an idea. We ‘spring clean’ our homes around this time of year, so why don’t we ‘spring clean’ our marriage?
Now, even though it sounds like fun, I don’t think Brian will like it if I grab a duster and start dusting him. That is not what I am talking about! I imagine marriage spring cleaning to be a little less broom and duster and a little more digging deep and opening up.
So, here is what I have come up with: I have 6 discussion questions ready to go. Find a time when you and your spouse can sit down and actually focus on each other. It might be a good idea to go get ice cream and have a little fun while you answer these questions. Some of them are a little heavy and you need to approach them with an open mind, prayer, and a desire to actually strengthen your marriage. These questions shouldn’t lead to arguments or cause you stress. This is a challenge but it’ll be good for you.
This is all about reflecting on your marriage and thinking about what you can do to make your marriage stronger. I want to help you build a stronger marriage. That’s our mission here at Grace, Love, Life!
Talk to your spouse and if they are up to the challenge, then it’s time to spring clean your marriage!
- If your walls could talk what would they say about your marriage? Do you agree with what they are saying? If not, what would you like them to say instead? What do you need to do to make this vision come true?
- Share one thing that your spouse has done recently that made you feel extraordinarily loved. Why did it make you feel this way?
- What is ‘the point’ of your marriage? If your marriage had a mission statement what would it be? How can you intentionally live that mission out each and every day?
- How has your marriage changed in the past year? Have you grown closer together? What challenges have you overcome? What challenges do your foresee affecting you in the future? What can you do now to make those challenges easier?
- How is your relationship with Christ? Both personally and as a couple? Are you attending church and reading your Bible together regularly? Marriage is meant to be a picture of Christ and His church. How does your marriage reflect this picture?
- Have you set aside a specific time to date your spouse? Is this something that is important to you? If needed, go ahead and plan out date nights for the next couple of months. Will you date weekly, monthly? If you need help planning out your date nights then you can check out my book, ‘Dating in Marriage.’
So yeah, these questions are deep! Whenever I spring clean my house it takes time and I have to be willing to get a little dirty. This is no different. In fact, marriage is even more important than those dusty floorboards and an organized Tupperware cabinet. What are you waiting for?
Do you and your spouse do any kind of yearly ‘marriage spring cleaning?’ I’d love to hear how you keep your marriage strong. Let us know in the comments below!