How are you doing?
We get asked this question all the time but it doesn’t mean what we say it does. It’s just a greeting and the expected answer is ‘Fine.’ Maybe at one time it meant something, but now it just means hello.
I think it’s really sad that in our culture we think that we need to hide our true feelings. As Christians, we are taught to love each other and carry each others burdens. It’s a pretty verse, but not always something that we carry out in our day to day lives. We don’t want to inconvenience our friends by burdening them with our trials. We are much more fond Facebook lives, which make everything look perfect.
But life is more than a continuous string of Facebook posts that show highlights of our lives and keeps the unpleasant parts in the shadows. Nobody’s life is perfect. Whatever you are going through, someone else has been there as well. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if you could share those feelings together instead of hiding them suffering alone?
As a blogger, I am on the internet ALL THE TIME and one thing that I’ve noticed is that people are more willing to share their struggles with strangers than the people they are close to. Somewhere in a private Facebook group or hidden community forum we feel safe to tell others our burdens. People sympathize with us, offer advice, and share experiences. Since all of this is happening on the internet, we don’t fear judgement. We don’t care what people on the internet think because we will never actually meet them! However, we need remember that the people who are really our friends won’t judge us either. They want to help you.
So here’s my challenge for you today: Ask someone how they are doing and encourage them to actually tell you the truth. Don’t make them feel uncomfortable, but do let them know that you care. And the next time that someone asks you, don’t be afraid to let them in and share what’s really going on with you.
People need other people. God created us so that we could have relationships and help each other. There is no shame in admitting that you aren’t okay!
If you aren’t okay today, feel free to send me a message and I’ll be here to listen and offer support as best as I can. You are a child of God and you are worth my time!