Do you remember your first date with your spouse? I do. I was so nervous! Brian and I met online so it was literally the first time that we were meeting! The date went well and I guess you can say that the rest is history.
I can still remember the anticipation I felt every time that I knew that Brian was coming to pick me up for a date. I would be excited that I couldn’t sleep the night before and spent hours getting ready. Two years later, with a baby on the way, it seems like our dating days are nearly over! We do everything together, so do we really need a date night?
I think so. A date night is meant to take you out of your current situation and give you time to focus on your spouse and your marriage. It gives you time to connect and build intimacy with your spouse. Once our baby is here, I know that dating in marriage is going to be even more difficult, but just as important.
I want you to date your spouse too! That’s why I’ve dedicated a HUGE portion of this blog to dating and creative date ideas! It’s also why I wrote my book, Dating in Marriage. I’m giving away a copy of my book today so make sure you enter below!
But before we get to the giveaway, here 7 reasons why you need to date your spouse.
Dating is Fun
Dating is fun and we all need to have fun in our lives. We need to laugh and reminisce. We need to create memories that will stay with us when life isn’t fun.
It Takes You Out of the Stress of Life
Brian and I have had a very stressful May and June due to health and financial issues. I love being pregnant but the constant sore back and swollen ankles don’t help me have a good attitude. Planning an actual date night and getting away gives us the opportunity to get away from the stress of life and just take a break.
Time is Valuable
If you ask someone how they’ve been they’ll probably say, ‘busy.’ We live in a culture that thrives on busyness. I have to admit that I am the same way. If I’m not working, I’m cooking dinner, or writing a blog post, or photographing something for a blog post. My time is valuable and so I need to give it to my husband because time with him is worth more than any writing job I could ever get.
You Need to Spend Quality Time Together
Dating in marriage isn’t just about spending time together, it’s about spending quality time together. It’s about building a stronger relationship and making sure that you and your husband are still on the same page. I’ve written and entire post about this, including a little five minutes a day intimacy challenge and you can read more about it here.
Dating Models Healthy Relationships for your Kids
As Baby Putman’s mother and father, we need to teach him what a healthy, loving relationship looks like because he will likely model what he sees. I want him to know that Brian and I love each other and see that our relationship is very important to us.
Dating Keeps your relationship strong
As life gets busy it’s easy to just kind of fall into a routine. I make Brian’s lunch and kiss him goodbye. Later, I make dinner and he helps me clean up. Then we do whatever it is that needs to be done that day, and we go bed. Routines are good, but whenever it comes to marriage, we need something more. Taking time to be together makes our marriage stronger.
Gives us Time to Discuss Important Issues
Now, dating should be just a business meeting of what’s going on in life and how are we going to fix it. But time together, away from your kids, does give you a chance to discuss things that are on your mind. It’s even a good time to think about the future!
My husband and I will always make time for date night because our marriage is important to us. But planning a date night can be difficult, that’s why I wrote my book, Dating in Marriage.
Dating in Marriage is essentially a one year plan to dating your spouse. Each month, you are provided with a fun and creative date idea as well discussion questions and conversation starters. The dates require little planning so all you have to do is pick a date and time. At the end of one year, you get to take a mini marriage retreat together. You plan a night or two away and the book provides the discussion questions and activities.
The giveaway ends Monday, June 26 at midnight CST. The winner will be chosen randomly. This giveaway is only available to those living in the United States. Good Luck!