This is a continuation of Wednesday’s post: Why I quit trying to be a Proverbs 31 Wife. You can read that post here.
It’s 6am and she is already awake, deep in prayer. She will soon make breakfast and prepare her home for another day. She is tired, but there is a smile on her lips and she faces her days without fear and anxiety. This is how I picture the Proverbs 31 woman. She has her sights set on Jesus. He is her role model and while she might not be there yet, she is on her way to becoming a wife of noble character.
If you read Wednesday’s post then you know that I have given up trying to be the ‘perfect Proverbs 31’ woman and instead I am striving to be more Christ-like. To do that I need to focus on the aspects of being a noble wife as they are described in Proverbs 31 instead of actually trying to be a perfect wife.
Let’s see if we can break this down a little bit. It might be worth your time to grab a Bible or click here and read Proverbs 31:10-31.
In verse 10 we learn that a wife of noble character is worth far more than many rubies. When I read this I am reminded of my value in Christ. The little things I do to keep my house in order do matter. When Christ died on the cross it was for me. Someday we will not only be princesses in our own homes, but in the courts of Heaven. Yes, wives, we are worth far more than rubies.
We read in verse 11 we see that her husband has full confidence in her. This trait is a little harder to achieve because it requires us to do something. Our husbands need to be able to trust us which means we need to have our heads in the right place. It means that we need to have our family’s best interest in mind at all times. It means living selflessly. If you want your husband to have confidence in you then you need to give him a reason to trust you. If he married you then he clearly thinks highly of you! Now, be fully honest with him in all matters, make decisions wisely, and seek God’s guidance in all things so that your husband will have confidence in you.
Verse 15 talks about how the Proverbs 31 wife rises early and verse 27 describes her as someone who does not eat the bread of idleness. To me, this means diligence. Maybe your house won’t be in perfect order, but if you are working diligently it’s ok. As a Christian, I know that I must be working diligently in all areas of my life. I have to diligently share the gospel with others. I have to work with diligence if I am to ever accomplish the things on my lengthy to do list. It’s hard work, and breaks are necessary, but do not let yourself fall into idleness.
In verse 21 we learn that the Proverbs 31 has clothed her family is scarlet when it snows. I, on the other hand, will not be dressing my family in anything homemade, but I do have to be prepared for difficult situations. When my husband leaves for work each day he has a carefully packed lunch in his hand. When I pay our bills I make sure that we have money in savings in case something unexpected comes up. The Proverbs 31 woman is prepared.
Verse 20 takes us out of the home. The Proverbs 31 wife extends her arms to the needy. She is compassionate. She finds time and appropriate ways to help those in need. When we think about helping the poor we imagine soup kitchens and red Salvation Army buckets. But it can be even simpler than that. Being compassionate can be reaching out to a friend who needs help or offering a kind word to the cashier at a store. I think that a Proverbs 31 wife would set an example for her children and friends by being compassionate.
The woman in described in verse 25 is clothed in strength and dignity. It takes strength to be a woman, wouldn’t you agree? I am trying to juggle being a homemaker, working a full time job, and running a blog. Also I must make time to spend with my husband and family. My plate is full and so I rely on the strength of the Lord to hold it up. It is good to be strong. But she isn’t strong, she is dignified. I think that being strong leaves you with a picture of a women who is tough. Dignity brings about a softer side of being a woman. If you are dignified then you are worthy of honor and respect. I can be strong and get everything done, but need to do it in a dignified way. To me this means not getting caught up in the hustle just for the sake of getting everything done. It means treating people like people, instead of another item to cross of the list.
Let’s look at one last characteristic. It’s in verse 26. The Proverbs 31 is wise and so wisdom flows from her lips. She isn’t just smart, she is wise. She seeks God’s wisdom in every aspect of her life and daily convenes with Him. This type of wisdom must come from God.
She is a picture of grace and strength. She speaks with wisdom and her hands are never idle. She working diligently for the good of her family. Being a wife of noble character means being like Christ. Let’s let him guide us in all things, each and every day. And while I feel like I am far from being a perfect Proverbs 31 wife, I won’t be taking my eyes off of Jesus anytime soon.
What other attributes do you think describe the Proverbs 31 wife?